Fabulous Photos From One of America’s Longest-Running Gay Proms

“Here, I could be myself. I could be with my boyfriend, as a pansexual transgender guy, and win cutest couple.”

Kalee and Zohal at the 20th Anniversary Gay Prom in Hayward, California<a href="http://www.saul-sandraphoto.com">Saul Bromberger & Sandra Hoover</a>

Fight disinformation: Sign up for the free Mother Jones Daily newsletter and follow the news that matters.

 

It’s just before 7 p.m. at Chabot College in Hayward, California, on June 7, and the music is blaring outside. Cheerleaders climb on each other’s shoulders to form pyramids. Adults in heels, tuxedoes, and hand-crocheted rainbow scarves line the red carpet while Rochelle Collins, the program director at Project Eden, runs around making sure everything is just right. This is, after all, the big day.

At 7:10 p.m., Collins turns to address the crowd. “Ready?” She looks around. “Let’s go!” she yells, grabbing a banner with three other organizers, and leading the procession.

Teens with multicolored hair, girls and guys in ball gowns and tuxes, tiaras, and jeans rush down the red carpet, skipping, smiling, and high-fiving adults on the sidelines. Some pump their fists victoriously in the air.

This may be just another prom, among the thousands played out in cafeterias and ballrooms across the country every spring. But here at Chabot College, the prom these teenagers are skipping, smiling, and fist-pumping about is also one of the nation’s oldest gay prom. And each time it happens—this year’s was the 20th—it is a kind of victory not just for organizers, but for kids who often—still—have nowhere else where they can truly be themselves.

A lot has changed in two decades. Back in 1995 when the prom was founded at Project Eden, an offshoot of the nonprofit Horizon Services, the AIDS epidemic was still in full swing, the overwhelming majority of Americans stood steadfast against gay marriage, and actress Ellen DeGeneres had yet to break national ground by revealing on the cover of Time that she was gay.

Ken Athey, the prom’s founder and a counselor working with local teens, had no idea what to expect that first year. He knew it wouldn’t be easy. In the pre-internet era, it was a problem just getting the word out. Then came the threats. The community was riled. One student who was identified in a local newspaper said he received death threats. On the day of the prom, there was a bomb threat. Protesters outnumbered attendees.

Toting homophobic signs that made liberal use of anti-gay epithets, they screamed through bullhorns and wore rubber gloves and masks, a common tactic of anti-gay protesters in the ’90s. Police officers stood between the protestors and the prom’s teenage attendees. Hayward High School teacher Mike Dwyer remembers “running the youth into Centennial Hall,” the spot that used to host the prom.

“Here we are 20 years later,” Dwyer says. “For the first time we have zero protesters. It was down to one guy for the last two years and he’s gone,” he says, clapping for prom entrants as they pass.

Today, the AIDS epidemic has evolved into HIV, controllable with powerful medications. The majority of Americans favor gay marriage, and many people now come out in high school as gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender, and some even feel comfortable defining their gender identity and sexuality in other nuanced ways.

But things aren’t perfect: Some schools still ban same-sex couples from proms. Parents aren’t always accepting. Then there’s “bullying and everything that goes along with it,” Dwyer says. That “hasn’t changed. It needs to be addressed.”

Collins, program director at Horizon’s Project Eden, was heartened by the hundreds of teens who turned out this year. But for every teen who felt comfortable enough to attend the prom this year, there are other kids who stayed away, Athey says. And those who did come didn’t want to go to their own proms.

“It’s not safe to go to the prom with who you really love and want to take,” Athey says. “It’s not safe for the ones who may not be totally out, unsure, or fearful.”

Project Edens’ Collins emphasizes that even as support of LGBT people grows, this prom continues to serve a vital purpose.

“When they come in on the receiving line and they have all these people cheering them on, they’re overwhelmed with happiness, because it’s all about acceptance,” Collins says. “It’s a needed event because the young people need a place to go to where they feel safe and accepted.”

Fremont student James Verges said he went to his prom, but came to this one anyhow because, “It gives everybody a fair chance. It’s a safe place for people to really be who they want to be, rather than what other people expect them to be.”

Jordana and Allessandra
 

Madison
 

Isabella
 

Marlon and Tasha
 

Kalee and Zohal
 

Kalee Kennedy, 19 and this year’s prom queen, is from Antioch, California: “I believe that gay prom is a wonderful opportunity for those who were previously unable to attend their own prom due to prejudice or fear. Many LGBTQA youth need events like this to remind them that they are not alone and that they will not always be judged.”

Zohal Sharif, 19 and this year’s other prom queen, is from Union City, California: “Gay Prom offers a safe space for LGBTQIA2-S and allies to experience the full ‘prom experience’ they were not given in their own high schools. This event is still important because across the country there are couples and individuals facing prejudice and who choose to not even go to their proms. Everyone should have a fun, cheesy prom experience.”
 

Tara and Cecelia
 

Brandan and Skylar
 

Skylar Gordon, 17 is from Milpitas, California: “It means a lot to have a prom—but not only to have a prom but have one that you know is going to be accepting. I really felt like I belonged at gay prom. I’ve never really fit in at any sort of school-related dance, and I never was really out about anything at a school dance. Here, I could be myself. I could be with my boyfriend, as a pansexual transgender guy, and win cutest couple. That would never happen at a school-related prom, or any dance of any kind.”

Thomas and Madisyn
 

Nancy and Melissa
 

Miracle

Miracle Minton, 16, is from Hayward, California: “You get to go to a prom where you feel more comfortable. There are schools that don’t accept same-sex dates to their proms, which I think is really absurd. Also, it’s a good event to meet more people who are fabulous. Gay prom was way more fun than my high school prom. I think that prom is good for the people who are scared to express their sexuality because then they can socialize with people who are just like them, the LGBT community.”

Chienna and Taryn
 

Lindsey and Eli
 

Bee and Tatum
 

Isabel and Reyna

Reyna Romero, 17, is from San Leandro, California: “I attended gay prom with my girlfriend and some close friends. I really think gay prom was a blast and I will always remember and cherish that night. Gay prom is not only important because it celebrates these individuals, but because it was great to go to a prom where my girlfriend and I weren’t discriminated against. My home school like many others doesn’t allow girls to wear tuxes and guys to wear dresses. My girlfriend and I felt really important and loved the whole time we were there.”

Check out video of this year’s gay prom below:

 

WE'LL BE BLUNT

It is astonishingly hard keeping a newsroom afloat these days, and we need to raise $253,000 in online donations quickly, by October 7.

The short of it: Last year, we had to cut $1 million from our budget so we could have any chance of breaking even by the time our fiscal year ended in June. And despite a huge rally from so many of you leading up to the deadline, we still came up a bit short on the whole. We can’t let that happen again. We have no wiggle room to begin with, and now we have a hole to dig out of.

Readers also told us to just give it to you straight when we need to ask for your support, and seeing how matter-of-factly explaining our inner workings, our challenges and finances, can bring more of you in has been a real silver lining. So our online membership lead, Brian, lays it all out for you in his personal, insider account (that literally puts his skin in the game!) of how urgent things are right now.

The upshot: Being able to rally $253,000 in donations over these next few weeks is vitally important simply because it is the number that keeps us right on track, helping make sure we don't end up with a bigger gap than can be filled again, helping us avoid any significant (and knowable) cash-flow crunches for now. We used to be more nonchalant about coming up short this time of year, thinking we can make it by the time June rolls around. Not anymore.

Because the in-depth journalism on underreported beats and unique perspectives on the daily news you turn to Mother Jones for is only possible because readers fund us. Corporations and powerful people with deep pockets will never sustain the type of journalism we exist to do. The only investors who won’t let independent, investigative journalism down are the people who actually care about its future—you.

And we need readers to show up for us big time—again.

Getting just 10 percent of the people who care enough about our work to be reading this blurb to part with a few bucks would be utterly transformative for us, and that's very much what we need to keep charging hard in this financially uncertain, high-stakes year.

If you can right now, please support the journalism you get from Mother Jones with a donation at whatever amount works for you. And please do it now, before you move on to whatever you're about to do next and think maybe you'll get to it later, because every gift matters and we really need to see a strong response if we're going to raise the $253,000 we need in less than three weeks.

payment methods

WE'LL BE BLUNT

It is astonishingly hard keeping a newsroom afloat these days, and we need to raise $253,000 in online donations quickly, by October 7.

The short of it: Last year, we had to cut $1 million from our budget so we could have any chance of breaking even by the time our fiscal year ended in June. And despite a huge rally from so many of you leading up to the deadline, we still came up a bit short on the whole. We can’t let that happen again. We have no wiggle room to begin with, and now we have a hole to dig out of.

Readers also told us to just give it to you straight when we need to ask for your support, and seeing how matter-of-factly explaining our inner workings, our challenges and finances, can bring more of you in has been a real silver lining. So our online membership lead, Brian, lays it all out for you in his personal, insider account (that literally puts his skin in the game!) of how urgent things are right now.

The upshot: Being able to rally $253,000 in donations over these next few weeks is vitally important simply because it is the number that keeps us right on track, helping make sure we don't end up with a bigger gap than can be filled again, helping us avoid any significant (and knowable) cash-flow crunches for now. We used to be more nonchalant about coming up short this time of year, thinking we can make it by the time June rolls around. Not anymore.

Because the in-depth journalism on underreported beats and unique perspectives on the daily news you turn to Mother Jones for is only possible because readers fund us. Corporations and powerful people with deep pockets will never sustain the type of journalism we exist to do. The only investors who won’t let independent, investigative journalism down are the people who actually care about its future—you.

And we need readers to show up for us big time—again.

Getting just 10 percent of the people who care enough about our work to be reading this blurb to part with a few bucks would be utterly transformative for us, and that's very much what we need to keep charging hard in this financially uncertain, high-stakes year.

If you can right now, please support the journalism you get from Mother Jones with a donation at whatever amount works for you. And please do it now, before you move on to whatever you're about to do next and think maybe you'll get to it later, because every gift matters and we really need to see a strong response if we're going to raise the $253,000 we need in less than three weeks.

payment methods

We Recommend

Latest

Sign up for our free newsletter

Subscribe to the Mother Jones Daily to have our top stories delivered directly to your inbox.

Get our award-winning magazine

Save big on a full year of investigations, ideas, and insights.

Subscribe

Support our journalism

Help Mother Jones' reporters dig deep with a tax-deductible donation.

Donate